Is there hope for this generation??

Jemima,

Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad." ~ Author Unknown

I got my Dad a coffee cup with that on it when I was an adult. From the day I gave it to him to the day he died, he wouldn't use another cup. After Mum died, I had the cup and when my nephew had his son, I gave him the cup. He told me that he felt that it was something special he would have to live up to.

His two sons are not always the most properly behaved, but they will never doubt they are loved. He's a good man, so I don't doubt that his children will learn to respect him as their example as they grow older.

Jeff - I strongly identify with your story, as disappointing my parents was always worse than any specific punishment. One of things we have to realize as parents is that it is only by pushing and exploring boundaries that our children learn some of the skills they will need to navigate through life.

 

morning Michelle,

I love that quote about dads... and to hear you gave your Father a coffee mug with the same statement only speaks of it's truthfulness. I firmly believe in family, and constant reminders to speak "life" into us everday of our lives. This was one of those moments between you and your Father. Absolutely priceless! and to hear of its current state, with your nephew only carries on it's legacy and purpose. Thank you for sharing your story, and have a wonderful day.

 

I prefer the simplistic quote from the cult classic film Starship Troopers when some one asks that question. The teacher simply replies "Tell that to the city founders of Hiroshima"

 

Rogues... walk with me

I had scheduled a coffee engagement this morning with a good friend. Starbucks of course, I had been out of touch with this person for a few months. Due to a recent lay off from a steady position, and feeling lost in this world.... the future was producing thoughts and feelings of despair, and uncertainty.... as I listened with concern, I realized that her burdens became mine as well. Understanding my role in friendship, it felt good to be a good friend... and share this experience. As we had continued to talk and enjoy our coffee together, there happened to be an elderly couple sitting next to us... before I introduce Margaret and Art to the picture, my friend and I were discussing the struggles and lack of commitment these days. Specifically addressing relationships.

Noticing this beautiful elderly woman sitting next to us, I respectfully tapped her knee and politely asked her "excuse me miss, are you married?", she responded "why yes I am... actually, 50 years this month! Both Deann and I sat back in awe... I'm aware of the potential in our seniors, and unfortunately it seems to be a dying legacy.... especially in today's youth. As Margaret divulged more of her life, and sharing the trials and tribulations that both her and her husband faced. I became silent... and listened intently. Margaret had expressed something to me I will never forget.... "Mark, you must remember that the grass will not always be greener on the other side. That it shall flourish where you water it"

By this point, Art had returned to his wife with her favorite cup of coffee. I had shook his hand and congratulated him on his journey in marriage and devotion. He had shook with a firm hand, and an encouraging smile. As he joined the conversation, his contribution consisted of making time for one another.... investing the quality time that is detrimental to any relationship. They make it a point every Friday to enjoy each other, and share a wonderful cup o' joe.

It was one thing to be there with my friend, but the experience with Art and Margaret echoed hope for the future in relationships.... make the choice to be committed, and loyal... today. I hope you can take away from my experience, and be encouraged.

all the best,

Jem

 

Hey that includes me well what i have to say is umm..... well when i go to school its i don't know i mean its like hell on earth for me i wanted to be a rock star at first but i got picked on for that sooo yea........

 

But bottom line yea that's some question they said during the 30s and 40s and look what happened.

 

Personally Mark, I'm offended.......just kidding! Its actually pretty amusing (yet often sad/scary) to read all this stuff trashing my generation. Honestly, though, when it comes down to it, yes there is the whole computer/facebook age etc., but being around these kids every day, I can tell you they will do what they need to, the lot of them I know do have great potential, as they mature they will realize that potential as well. Perhaps we just need a little bit more encouragement and less articles/news stories about how we are not matching up to the standards of past generations. I believe we do have hope...I must

 

Mark, my wife and I will soon be married 5 years and we dated for 8. We unfortunatly watched good friends get divorced and it is a sad thing especially when kids are involved. I look forward to the day of a 50 year or even a 40 year anniversary. I feel sometimes my generation and even the generation to come has little to offer. But then you meet some of these kids who have potential and realize there is still hope for the future. Congrats on your 40th LRUSSO216

 

Jon,

I embrace your perspective! and I agree Unfortunately, my persuasion reflects personal experience(s). Maybe it's my age group (25-30), I'd like to think that I am a rare breed who thinks otherwise, but the relationships that I've witnessed crumble when the times get tough, individuals become selfish, and opportunistic. There is a mind set that lacks depth or clarity... meaning, people fail to see what they have. Which in turn, may lead to taking things for granted and hurting those they love. Please understand, that I have hopeful faith for our generation, even the younger ones The potential is there indeed...

all the best Jag

Jem

teach'

You remind me of the couple I spoke with today... there was an adoration and respect like I have never seen. They understood their roles, and cherished each other undoubtedly. I guess I struggle with this thread and trying to explain myself sometimes... having experienced my own relationship strains, the topic is pretty sensitive. I appreciate your feedback, and wish nothing more than continued happiness for you and your family!

Jem

 

107,

First all, congrats to you and your wife... and I believe you will make it to your 50th! You have to want it, there must be effort and communication, and a forgiving heart. I don't mean to come across like I have all the answers, just speaking from my faults. Jag is a testament of this generation, I bet you didn't know he's 17 years old? sorry Jon

all the best to you and yours,

Jem